You’ve likely heard that admitting you have a drug or alcohol problem is the very first step to getting help. While this is true, the next step is often the hardest when your parents are involved. If they have no idea you are suffering from an addiction, you are probably wondering whether or not you should tell them. It may be one of the hardest conversations you will ever have, but you should not have to go through the recovery process without family support.
If you aren’t sure whether you should tell your parents or not, let us help you make the decision. Read on for more information.
How to Begin
Your family can be a very helpful source of love and comfort when you have an addiction. Of course, the very idea of telling your parents can be overwhelming. You probably feel as though you have disappointed them, or you may be afraid they will become extremely angry at you. While every family situation is different, it’s usually better to admit to your parents that you have a problem. Once your problem is out in the open, you can work on your sobriety with their love and support.
Time it Correctly
This conversation requires good timing on your part. Your parents will need plenty of time to consider everything you tell them. You’ll also want to leave extra time to talk about your goals and future plans. Avoid bringing your addiction up if they are upset or worried about another problem, and don’t spring it on them right before they need to be somewhere. Find out when they have time to sit down and talk as a family. After dinner is often a good choice.
Stay Clean for the Conversation
You may be tempted to toss your addiction out into the open when you are drinking or under the influence. However, being high or drunk will cloud your thoughts and your judgment. You may be more honest than you mean to be, and you may say things you will regret later on. Always plan a time where you will be 100% sober to tell your parents about your addiction.
Be Open and Honest
Are you used to lying to your parents to cover up your drug or alcohol addiction? It’s time to come completely clean to them. For one, you will feel much better letting everything out. Being honest about everything will also show your parents that you are serious about needing help for your addiction. They will also gain a clearer understanding of the life you have been living when you are open and honest.
It’s also a good idea to remember that your parents may already suspect that you have a substance abuse problem. Even if you have done your best to hide it, they likely have picked up on the signs of drug abuse. If they have confronted you about your addiction in the past, make sure to own up to it today.
Apologize to Them
You may have hurt your family while you were drinking or using. Now is the time to tell them you are sorry. Apologizing for your mistakes will show them that you are serious about becoming sober. They will appreciate the apology and will be more likely to help you.
Why Should I Tell My Parents?
Everyone has a different relationship with their parents. Some are great while others are terrible. Only you know how your parents will react to your admission. If you believe they will be supportive, put aside your pride and talk to them. Having the support of your family while you focus on your sobriety will make a huge difference. Additionally, they may have to know what is happening if you plan on entering a drug rehab facility. If you have children or take care of someone in your family, you will need to make arrangements for their care while you are in treatment. Telling your parents your plans is often a way to arrange childcare or other assistance in the future.
Additional Thoughts
If you simply can’t do it alone, ask a trusted family member or friend to be there for backup support when you talk to your parents. You may also wish to write down your thoughts in a letter if you cannot confront them face-to-face. We’re here to help you when you need it. Call us at 833-610-1174 when you’re ready to tell your parents and check into rehab.